• Mindfulness

The Best Valentine’s Day Gift Idea: Self-love

When it comes to Valentine’s Day, one can easily forget that the most important relationship we have is the one we have with ourselves. While the main focus is usually on coupled love and ways to shower our significant other with the perfect gifts, self-compassion should be equally prioritized. 

Yes, we know what you are thinking… and no, self-love does not mean self-absorption. It is, in fact, the “state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological, and spiritual growth.” The more you recharge yourself with self-love, the more you experience positive shifts in yourself and your relationships.

Here are 3 simple and practical ways to help you get in the habit of putting yourself first. 

1- Change the way you talk to yourself

We all have that inner voice that comments on how we behave. While it’s easy to replay the negatives, practicing positive self-talk helps change the way you perceive a problem or certain situations. The next time you find yourself telling yourself things like, “You are not enough,” and “this will never work,” ask yourself, would I say this to a friend? 

Write down positive adjectives about yourself instead! You could use phrases like, “I’m going to succeed,” “I am proud of what I have accomplished so far.” 

2- Practice good self-care

You will love yourself more when you take better care of your basic needs. Nourish yourself daily with healthy activities like sound nutrition, fun workouts, proper sleep, healthy social interactions, an inspirational book, a skincare routine (for men and women!), and meditation. The list goes on and on, but the most important thing is to choose something that makes you feel good!

3- Give your phone a break

Between all the work calls, social media channels, and apps, it is no surprise that we tend to forget how to disconnect from our screens. Motivate yourself to reduce screentime by trying these simple tactics that will have a big impact on the way you carry out your day:

  • Don’t check your phone first thing in the morning. While having your morning coffee, take a few minutes to connect with yourself. Notice your surroundings, take a few breaths, and think about what you want to accomplish during the day. 
  • Turn off notifications after working hours. This will allow you to achieve a work-life balance by making sure you give yourself the space to recharge.
  • Don’t let the last thing you see before you sleep be your screen. Instead, put it on silent and focus on some of the positive things you did. If it was a bad day, reflect on what went wrong, hug yourself for getting through it, and worry about tomorrow, tomorrow 🙂